Sa Lifeline Foundation

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Our Story

Steven and Rhyll Croshaw were married 40 years ago on March 22nd. They moved through their marriage with difficulties and joys raising 7 beautiful children. During this time, Rhyll felt that things were wrong in their marriage, but she had no idea that Steven was struggling greatly with a hidden sexual addiction. Steven felt that his behaviors (including pornography use and visiting adult establishments) were not in line with who he wanted to be, but he had no real help or guidance and he could not stop the behavior.

Steven disclosed his behaviors to Rhyll three times. The first time, she was shell-shocked. She did not know what to do, and after gaining some well-meaning advice to forgive and forget, she tried to put it past her. However, ten years later Steven disclosed again. This time, her trauma surfaced with anger, strength, and a desire to control. She pulled herself up by her bootstraps and determined that she would fix this problem for their marriage. 10 years after the second disclosure; however, he disclosed a third time that the behaviors had continued for another seven years. Rhyll was re-traumatized, devastated, and at this moment surrendered her fears to her higher power. 

Steven too was at his "rock-bottom" and began to seek out help. At various times during the first 30 years the Croshaw's had tried marital therapy numerous times, read the few books available on the topic of sexual addiction, and had attended a few 12-step groups. They had talked to some spiritual leaders, but still neither of them had found the recovery and healing that they needed.

That time, seven years ago, however, was different. And since that time, they have found a pathway of recovery and healing. 

SA Lifeline

After experiencing 30 years in the dark and finally finding the actions and principles necessary for recovery and healing, the Croshaw's developed SA Lifeline Foundation (or Sexual Addiction Lifeline) in 2009. SA Lifeline is a non-profit organization that provides education, resources, and hope to those struggling with pornoraphy and sexual addiction and their loved ones. Our hope is that those currently in the clutches of addiction and trauma will be able to find this material and speed up their own pathway to recovery.

All money that comes to the foundation (through book sales, and donations) goes toward purchasing more books, creating audio-visual educational materials, creating brochures, paying for website maintenance, and space that SA Lifeline provides for 12-step meetings.

Our Big Project

On our website, there is a great deal of material regarding the addict’s path of recovery, the spouse’s healing journey, and reattachment of the marriage. We also produce material related to brain science, parenting, teen use and recovery, teaching healthy sexuality to children, and dating and recovery.

As we finally move into the 21st century, we are working on a project that will majorly re-haul the look and functionality of our website (salifeline.org). We have vast amount of scientifically sound material (vidoes, books, pamphlets, articles), and we want to make that accessible to the public. We hope that in revamping our site, we can draw in more people who are strugling , spread hope, and teach the path of recovery at a much faster pace. This project will cost around $25,000 to complete in a year. This is our goal.

Making changes to a website may seem small, but we believe the effects will be huge. We currently have over 100 videos and even more articles deep within the recesses of our site. We continue to produce and publish free material constantly. There is also a team of volunteers translating material into Spanish. When our website is restructured, all of this material will be much easier to find, read, and use.

Why Utah?

Historically, Utah has had the highest recorded searches for pornography of any other state. (http://www.google.com/trends/explore#q=pornography&geo=US). Our work is especially important to Utah because we believe pornography and sexual addiction destroys individual self-worth and life-satisfaction, families, work production, and societal development.

Renouned Jill Manning, Ph.D., LMFT stated, "Pornography is neither harmless nor helpful. Pornography use is not simply a habit. It is a Mood altering, Belief changing, Relationship damaging, Addiction forming, Socially harmful, Spiritually deadening, Life crippling practice.”

Please help us to share what we have- hope, recovery, healing, transformation- through any donation you can.